If the conversation turns to gossip and backbiting, one should:

1. **Change the Subject**: Gently steer the conversation to a more positive or neutral topic without directly confronting the gossip.

2. **Set an Example**: Speak positively and share constructive insights, modeling respectful conversation.

3. **Express Discomfort**: Politely indicate discomfort with the topic by stating that you prefer to avoid discussing others in such a manner.

4. **Excuse Yourself**: If necessary, excuse yourself from the conversation or gathering, citing a prior commitment or need to leave.

These actions can help maintain personal integrity and guide the discussion in a respectful direction.