If a person has wronged someone but is unable to seek their forgiveness directly, Islamic teachings offer guidance on steps they can take to seek Allah’s forgiveness and strive to make amends:
1. Repent Sincerely to Allah:
Begin by making a sincere intention to repent (tawbah) and seek Allah’s forgiveness. Repentance involves feeling genuine remorse, resolving not to repeat the wrongdoing, and making a sincere commitment to change.
Ask Allah for forgiveness with humility, recognizing the harm caused and feeling accountable for it.
2. Make Du’a (Supplication) for the Person Wronged:
Pray for the person’s well-being and ask Allah to grant them goodness and blessings in their life. This is a way to counterbalance the harm caused and demonstrate a desire to repair the relationship in a way that is within one’s control.
3. Give Charity on Their Behalf:
Donating to charity on behalf of the wronged person can serve as a way of compensating for the harm done. This act of kindness can be a form of sadaqah (charity) and is especially encouraged if one cannot directly reach out to the person.
Intend that the rewards of the charity go to the person wronged, seeking Allah’s acceptance as a way to rectify the wrongdoing.
4. Rectify the Wrong, If Possible:
If the harm involves something tangible (e.g., damage to property or financial loss), do your best to compensate or repair it indirectly if possible, such as anonymously replacing or repaying what was lost or damaged.
If the wrongdoing involved spreading rumors or backbiting