If a Muslim finds themselves in a gathering where the conversation turns to gossip and backbiting, it’s important to respond in a way that aligns with Islamic values of kindness, respect, and avoiding harm to others. Here’s how they can steer the discussion toward something more positive:

1. Avoid participating in the gossip: One of the key principles in Islam is to avoid speaking ill of others. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or remain silent.” (Sahih Bukhari). If the conversation is heading in a negative direction, try not to add to it. Instead, stay silent or change the subject.
2. Politely redirect the conversation: You can gently shift the discussion by introducing a more neutral or positive topic. For example, you could say something like, “Let’s focus on something more uplifting. Has anyone heard of a recent positive story or something interesting that happened?”
3. Remind others of the importance of good character: Without sounding judgmental, you could remind the group of the Islamic view on gossip and backbiting. You might say something like, “You know, Islam really emphasizes avoiding speaking ill of others. We should try to focus on things that bring us closer to Allah.”
4. Encourage empathy and understanding: If the gossip involves speaking ill about someone not present, you can highlight the importance of empathy and give the benefit of the doubt to others. For instance, “We don’t know the full story or circumstances behind someone’s actions, so it’s better to be understanding and not judge too quickly.”
5. Excuse yourself if necessary: If the conversation continues in a negative direction and you’re unable to steer it away, it may be best to politely excuse yourself from the conversation or the gathering. You could say, “I’m not comfortable with this type of talk, and I think I’ll step out for a bit.”

By using these approaches, a Muslim can protect themselves from engaging in backbiting while also encouraging a more positive and beneficial environment for everyone present.